How Compassion May be Harming Your Health + 3 Self-Care Tips

What do you think of when you read the word “compassion?”

Maybe you think of some generous heart taking care of people in Calcutta, or some foreign aid mission. Or maybe you think of someone donating their time at a soup kitchen, or volunteering their time at a seniors’ care facility. Maybe you think of holding the door for the person behind you or giving up your seat on the train for someone who needs it. The majority of the time when we think of the word compassion we think of people doing something to help others.

The truth is, the foundation of all positive interaction between ourselves and other beings is rooted in compassion.

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Use These Practices to Deepen Your Self-Care Routine

I must admit, there are days when functioning like a normal human being seems extremely difficult. 

I’ll wake up in the morning and not feel quite like myself. Sometimes, I don’t want to get out of bed, get dressed, or even communicate with another human being in person. This could simply be because I woke up feeling down, my self-esteem is on the low side that morning, or I am just not feeling up to the day. On these days, I find that it is important to encourage myself to get up, be productive, and accomplish whatever goals that I have.

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From Wish to Reality: Practical Steps to Making Your Dreams Come True

“A dream is a wish your heart makes.” 

I know you just sang that in your mind, didn’t you? I love this song so much. Cinderella was one of my favorite movies to watch with my daughter when she was a little girl. It set the stage for teaching her to reach for her dreams. It taught the little girl in me to believe in impossible dreams. Yet, I have come to realize that a wish can remain just that. There are necessary steps we need to take in order for a dream to become a reality.

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What to do if You’re in an In-Between Season

Are you currently in the middle of your story?

Maybe you’re trying to lose weight, find peace with your inner-dialogue, start your very own business, get pregnant, stop constantly comparing your journey to another, get out of debt, overcome an addiction, ditch shame, cultivate radical body confidence, or fall in love. Is that you? I know how uncomfortable transition and incomplete stories can feel, especially in our digital era where completion is praised every single day. 

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Five Ways to Maximize Your Counseling

On any given day you can find me sitting in my blue leather chair while someone sits on my cozy blue couch. 

I make sure the Kleenex box is always replenished and I have a soft blue blanket that holds many a snotty tear. No, I am not a weird human with an affixation to the color blue, I am a counselor. I consider it to be the greatest honor to hold stories, space and hope for women as they walk the courageous journey back towards their truest, most authentic selves. 

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4 Actions to Take When You Feel Unappreciated 

How many times have you worked really hard, put all of your strength into a project, situation, effort or another person only to feel unappreciated?

The feeling of being unnoticed for your efforts or for your time can be discouraging. A giving person puts her time, emotions, energy, spirit, mind, and body into those she loves or into that for which she is passionate.  Unfortunately, all of her energy, time, emotions, and so forth are often not reciprocated. So how does one find the energy to continue giving when faced with the feelings of being unappreciated?

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10 Ways to Love Your Body in a Deeper Way

Accepting our bodies is a huge step towards accepting ourselves.

One day in February of this year, had a revelation. I thought to myself, “What if I start accepting and loving myself by taking care of my body? What if I shift my mind from doing things because I feel like I have to do them to doing things because I love doing them?” You are probably wondering why I was asking myself these questions. At the beginning of this year I was at a point where I was done with not feeling good in my own skin.

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7 Steps to a Powerful Come-Back

I spent my entire life fearing failure and, in true law of attraction manner, experiencing it time and time again. 

I’ve failed myself: in business, as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter, you name it! The kicker is that failing doesn’t define your identity, nor does it define your ability to do something. Failing as a mother doesn’t mean you’re a bad mother. Failing in business doesn’t mean you can’t do good business. I’ve fallen flat on my face enough times to know that failure is often a disguised opportunity, redirection, and growth.

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How to Stop Letting Fear Hold You Back: A Guide to Gaining Clarity + Getting Closer to Your Dreams 

Have you ever felt paralyzed? 

Really think about it. Have you ever put off the dreams and desires living and breathing on the inside of you? Have you ever felt anxious about taking the leap of faith? Have you ever said “Tomorrow is the day” only to get there and still put it off? Have you ever felt so scatter-brained about who you are, where you are going, and what you want to do with your life? Good news: you’re not alone. 

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7 Ways to Silence Your Inner-Critic & Start Living Unapologetically

“YOU’RE FAT. YOU’RE NOT CREATIVE. YOU CAN’T START A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS.”

These statements used to be on repeat in my head quite often, and the crazy thing is that I didn’t even realize it. After experiencing deep heartbreak and developing early signs of anxiety and an eating disorder, my inner-critic was spewing out harsh accusations and jabs so often that I became somewhat numb to them. I had become BFF’s with my inner-critic, and my thought-life and actions were truly showing it. 

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5 Ways You May Be Holding Yourself Back from Your Dream Reality

Here’s the hard truth: WE create our reality. 

About a year and a half ago, I was sitting at my desk in a small office building. I was scrolling through a fashion blog, awing at the “perfect” pictures, envying her never-ending travel explorations, and wishing that my life could be like that. I quickly caught myself in the act of comparison and brought myself back to reality. Then, I heard these words echo in my mind: “Ashton, YOU have the opportunity to create your reality. You can create your dream life or you can create a life you’re not happy with. The truth is that at the end of the day, it is ultimately up to YOU.” 

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Eating Disorder Recovery, Self Care, & Boundaries with Rini Frey

1| Hi Rini! Welcome to the blog space. Can you start by introducing yourself and sharing some fun facts and weird quirks? Give us the down low! 

Hi there! I am Rini and I give great hugs ☺ I grew up in Germany, my family is Greek and I met my now-husband traveling in Australia. We now live in Canada with our 9-year old Boston Terrier “puppy” Bruce. It’s been a wild ride so far, but our lives are now pretty “normal” I would say. 

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3 Ways To Not Let Comparison Kill You

There is a girl on Instagram I wish I could be so badly that I can’t even follow her.

I wish I could roll my body like a Play-Doh snake to be as skinny as hers. I wish I could have a huge flock of followers like hers. I wish I could sew sentences together like her. I wish my life could live up to her level of earth-toned atheistic. 

Feel free to laugh at the fact that I have legitimately followed and unfollowed this girl four times because I just can’t deal with her pure perfection randomly projecting on my feed, reminding me of the imperfections I had forced myself to forget about. 

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Her Messy, Beautiful, and Continual Journey to Becoming an Artist with Anna Nùñez

1. Hi Anna! Welcome to the blog space. Can you start by introducing yourself and sharing some fun facts and weird quirks? Give us the down low!

Hey there! Thank you so much for inviting me into this space! My name is Anna Núñez, and I’m a multi-passionate artist, working as a designer and illustrator – from my home-base in Fort Myers, FL. I am such a weirdo, with many quirks, and thankfully, I’m married to a guy whose weirdness may even top mine.

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4 Ways to Reduce Your Anxiety

I am here to tell you that anxiety is not a permanent sentence. Sure, it doesn’t really go away forever, but it can be managed. 

First, let me define anxiety for those of us who may not fully understand what it means. As a fleeting feeling, anxiety is worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.

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5 Ways to Love the Skin You’re In

As women, we often battle our bodies. 

Have you ever looked in the mirror and nit-picked at every blemish, curve, indentation, imperfection, and “flaw?”Have you ever hidden behind layers and layers of clothing because you felt like your body didn’t meet the standard of beauty? Have you ever felt so insecure about your appearance that you avoided a party, event, or social gathering? Girl, me too.

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Radical Vulnerability and Honest Conversation with Sarah Hartley

1| Welcome, Sarah! Please start by introducing yourself, sharing who you are and what you do, and any odd habits or weird quirks you have. We want the full scoop!

Thank you for having me!  I’m Sarah, the creator, editor in chief, publisher, designer, etc. of Holl & Lane Magazine.  As most entrepreneurs know, when you start your own business, you wear all of the hats at some point!

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