This is Why I've Grown to Appreciate Change
*Image by the lovely Mikayla Christiansen
If I’m being honest, I didn’t really like change at first—far from it, actually.
I hated the cycle of getting completely comfortable with a certain aspect of my life, just for it to take a turn in the opposite direction. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. After all, as the saying goes, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Wouldn’t you agree?
THE HARDEST CHANGES TO GET USED TO:
Sure, small changes, like my favorite color changing from pink to purple were easy to accept and eventually get used to. At least with changes like those, to some extent, I was still in control—I still had a say as to how I wanted things to turn out. However, as I would later find out, that sense of control was not a privilege I would get to experience as much as I would have wanted to.
I remember forming an insanely close group of friends in kindergarten. We’d call each other the night before to plan out our matching outfits, and we’d share our snacks during recess time every single day. During the weekend, our families would get together to hang out. The adults would talk about things we were too young to understand at the time, and then my group of friends, together with our siblings, would go upstairs to play. Most of the time, these hangouts extended until after midnight, and for a 6-year-old at the time, that was definitely way past my curfew.
I didn’t mind, though–I cherished every single moment I was able to spend with the people who made my childhood the amazing adventure that it was. And then, like most childhood friends, we drifted. As we got older, it got harder and harder to deny that our likes, our dislikes, and our overall personalities, were starting to conflict. Little by little, we stopped hanging out both inside and outside of school as much as we used to. At some point, even our parents started having disagreements—both big and small—of their own.
So naturally, only the closest of us kept in touch.
While we remained civil with the others whenever we would cross paths, I knew we all had a silent understanding that things would never be the same again. And of course, being my young, not-so-wise-yet self at the time, I only saw the negative effects of such a huge change in my life. What else could you expect from a kid who had not yet figured out that the plans of the universe—more often than not—trump your own?
SO WHAT CHANGED ALONG THE WAY?
Fast forward to my considerably wiser high school self, I realized that the changes in my life, no matter how much of a curse they seemed like at first, were actually blessings in disguise. And this change in perspective couldn’t have come at a better time, too. Because it was during this period in my life that I was able to truly see what I could do when I stepped out of my comfort zone and opened myself up to new people.
What I could gain when I took advantage of all the opportunities that the world had to offer, in every aspect of my life.
In looking back, I am extremely proud of myself for being able to recognize how much better my life could be if I welcomed change with an open heart. And that’s exactly what I did. Today, I can say with full confidence that doing so allowed me not only to grow as a person, but also to develop a change appreciation mindset—one that even until now, I am able to apply in my life every single day.
WHY DEVELOPING THIS CHANGE APPRECIATION MINDSET IS JUST AS POSSIBLE FOR YOU AS IT WAS–AND IS–FOR ME
So, was developing a mindset that allows me to appreciate change simply a lucky break? Of course not. Whether you believe it or not right now, I’m here to tell you that you have the capacity to find yourself in awe of all the things you can achieve when you stop restricting yourself only to what is familiar. You have the willpower to say no to the temptation of remaining stuck in the past, and instead say yes to all the possibilities that the future holds.
Most of all, you are completely capable of becoming genuinely grateful for every change in your life–major or minor, expected or unexpected. Granted, you will not feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude for the changes that occur right as they are happening. However, if you remain grounded in the belief that someday, somehow, all the dots will magically connect, I promise you that it will be a lot easier than you may think right now. Simply put, the power to give yourself the green light to living a life you genuinely deserve is all in your mind. Why would they call it a mindset if it weren’t?
HOW TO MAKE THIS MINDSET LAST
One word: Commitment. Enough said. Because sure, I could go on and on about why I have grown to appreciate change more and more each day. But my words can only do so much. At the end of the day, it is up to you to make a choice.
Will you perceive change as an unwelcome visitor, or will you willingly open the door for it and see what it has to offer?
There is one thing Gabby Cruz cannot live without, and it's not her phone; it's gratitude. Although she may be taking up business as a major in college, she remains passionate about helping others live a life they genuinely love through her blog, Ocio Lifestyle, a blog that centers on inspiring, out of the box content about optimism and gratitude.