Learning How to Love Fiercely - Vulnerability and Bravery
Love is one of the scariest actions, but it’s also one of the most beautiful.
The act of love requires total surrender - the letting go of fear, the laying down of the walls around our heart. It’s the brave act of having faith in another person. It’s choosing to let the beauty of love outweigh our fear of disappointment and heart-break. It’s looking at another person in the eyes and saying “I’m with you. In the good. In the bad. Through it all.” It’s accepting the beauty of another person while at the same time accepting their flaws.
It’s seeing the best version of your partner, but also loving them at their worst. It’s in the moments where their flaws are exposed and you bravely embrace them. It’s learning to ebb and flow together through the valley floors and the mountain tops. Because true love isn’t formed in ease and beautiful moments - it’s foundation is built upon the trial. Love is strengthened in the storm.
Love is an ever-lasting pursuit.
Let me introduce you to the handsome man in the pictures above (in case you don’t already know). Josh is the kindest, sweetest, funniest, persistent and most talented person I know. We met when his beard was big and bushy, but his bright-blue eyes won me over. He won me over in many ways, but his guacamole was the deciding factor (just kidding, but he does make some dope guac). The evolution of our relationship was quite slow, but I will remember one moment forever…
I was texting with a long-distance friend who had recently moved to California. I was expressing my concern, my hesitancy, my fear. My heart is all in - or all out so it’s natural for me to be reserved in relationships. The fear of love not being reciprocated terrified me. I didn’t want to experience heart-break and disappointment.
She said something that will stick with me forever. She said “Josh is so kind. He’s the type of guy who will endlessly pursue you.” In that moment, my heart skipped a beat. I mean, that’s the definition of true, ever-lasting love. It pursues you persistently and passionately through the beauty and the sorrow of life. It never gives up. It never lets go. It always chooses you. It always chases after you.
To love fiercely requires bravery, vulnerability and trust.
We have to be willing to allow another person to access our heart. We have to be willing to take risk, have faith and be brave. Here are some ways to love fiercely in your relationships…
When we love someone - I mean wholeheartedly, undeniably, and bravely love someone - we abandon fear and hesitancy. We unlock the barricades of our hearts and fully expose the deepest, darkest places of who we are. We choose vulnerability. We lay down the shield knowing that the other person has the potential to reach our heart. Knowing that they can handle it with care or destroy it. Doesn’t this sound like a brave act of faith to you? Surrendering something so fragile to another human being not knowing what they will do to it? This sounds absolutely, utterly brave to me.
Be brave and go all in. Don’t allow fear of heartbreak to take away from your journey of falling in love. Of course, allow your heart to open up slowly and at your own pace, but bravely take those steps. They can be small, but don’t hold back.
|Choose to be Vulnerable - like really vulnerable
This goes hand-in-hand with being brave… because vulnerability requires bravery. Choose to open up the deepest parts of your heart. Confide in your partner. Trust them. This is the only way you will be able to test the waters. This is when you discover if they are trustworthy and if they have the right to access the deeper parts of your heart. Actively pursue deeper vulnerability in your relationships. Whether it’s sharing about a past heart-break, something that’s really important to you or telling that person how you feel.
When we choose vulnerability - when we choose it all the way without reservation - we create meaningful, long-lasting, beautiful relationships. Vulnerability is the catalyst to deeper trust.
|Trust. Trust. Trust.
A relationship cannot be founded in strength and beauty without trust. It cannot reach its highest potential, its highest level and highest reward when trust isn’t present. It’s okay to feel scared at first - it’s natural! But don’t allow distrust to be birthed out of your fear. Trust your partner. Believe in their love for you. Bravely, passionately and fiercely love your partner by trusting in them wholeheartedly.
Love is an action we choose to take. It’s being honest, sacrificing, compromising, accepting, and bravely pursuing.
What’s one way you display love in relationships? Leave your answers below! Also, click here to get a free download of a sneak peek into the first volume of The Authentic Woman and get 20% off when you purchase the book!