Discovering Your Calling and Living Out Your Purpose with Lindsay Knox McVety
Lindsay, tell us about your current job helping underprivileged individuals in low income communities. Was this something you always wanted to do?
In a weird way, yes! When I was in middle school, a missionary visited my hometown church and talked about their ministry in Mexico. From that moment on, I knew I wanted to be a part of something greater than myself, and I immediately felt a connection to Latin American culture and underprivileged families. Since my tender pre-teen years, I have been amazed at the opportunities to serve the exact communities that I dreamed of as a young girl. Back then, I had no idea that I would begin a non-profit with 2 of my best friends and that our humanitarian work would end up being the best part of my life’s work. Even now as we continue our work in these communities, I still get chills. I always thought this would just be a dream or a goal, but we are actually living out our dream to do something bigger.
So, you’re a southern girl now relocated to Canada. How did this happen, and what was this transition like?
Yes, and I am so thankful for those Southern roots that help me navigate the big city lifestyle here in Toronto! When I was in college, at Liberty University, I met a handsome Canadian man who swept me off my feet in a matter of moments, and before I knew it, we were in love. A few months after graduation, we got married and headed up to the cold North to begin our lives together!
The transition was not as glamorous as I had expected. It’s actually really hard to leave everything you have ever known to restart in a completely new place. The first 6 months were probably the trickiest. When I moved, it was like BOOM: new marriage, new home, new job, new city, new climate, oh and everything is just different enough to keep you confused and asking questions. Don’t get me wrong, I am (and was) so grateful to have all of these NEW things, but it was just a lot of new coming at me at once. After figuring out the difference between Toronto East and Toronto West, all the grocery store brands, and found a few *spots* to call our own, the transition was better. That’s the key in moving to a new city… Make it your own.
Your platform Eat Pray Wife is about all things food, faith and family. How did you dive into the world of blogging? And what’s the ultimate message you want to share with the world through this platform?
Before Eat Pray Wife, I had a blog called This is Not Therapy. It was about various psychology and counseling topics from a student perspective. I started it while in Grad School, and after a year of blogging about anxiety disorders, self-care tips, and when to go see a counselor, I was burnt out on these topics… So I shifted gears, rebranded, broadened my audience, and Eat Pray Wife was born.
With Eat Pray Wife, I wanted my target audience to be like EVERYONE. No, like really… I didn’t just want to appeal to wives, or Christian women, or people who like food. I wanted to create content that anyone and everyone could relate to, so I write about a lot of different topics. The main focus is for women, and the ultimate message I want to get across through my blog is to live the life you choose to live. I talk about recipes and style secrets, but I also spend a lot of time talking about the importance of living authentically, loving ourselves, and living a life that you can be proud of.
One of your biggest passions is real, authentic conversation. What are some tips you have for starting these raw, honest conversations? Especially online?
This is seriously one of the best questions ever! Real, authentic conversation is hard to come by these days, and my #1 tip for making these happen is to just dive in. I think people mirror behavior in an effort to be liked or find approval, so when they meet really nice people, they act nice, and when they meet a stronger personality, they suddenly act really interesting… but neither of those “acts” are authentic. Instead of mirroring each other, we need to dive into conversations with nothing to lose, fully accepting whatever the other person is bringing to the table, and engaging fully in that conversation.
Online conversation is even harder because we live behind the beautiful highlight reels called social media. I talk about this on the blog a lot, how we are so goofy and funny in real life, but online, we are sophisticated and elegant… like no… we are funny, we are full of borderline sarcastic remarks, and we actually do care what people think about us. When you can acknowledge that and put it out there, you can project your authentic self and have more meaningful conversations.
You look SO confident in front of the camera. What tips do you have for someone battling body insecurities? How can they overcome those and walk in confidence?
You’re so sweet! I was actually in a modeling workshop recently, and the speaker was on the topic of confidence. I grabbed a pen anticipating some deep and profound words about being authentic and projecting confidence in front of the camera, and I was completely shocked and pleasantly satisfied with her remark. She said, “Confidence… I only have one thing to say about it. If you don’t have any, well get some.” That was it… she didn’t give some long speech about self-love and acceptance, she literally just said, “Get some.”
My life has been saturated with insecurities from a young age, as is for most people. I mean, we are mainly just walking bundles of insecurities trying to “fake it til we make it.” It’s when we stop “faking it” that we actually “make it” though. In front of the camera, and in real life, you are ultimately 100% responsible for how you feel about yourself. You are the single most important source for your confidence, and that begins when you know who you are and being proud of that person. I have never met a confident person who couldn’t answer the question: “Who are you?” Likewise, I’ve never met a person who couldn’t answer that question and thought, hmmm they must be full of confidence. I believe that confidence is found in your answer to that question, and when you like the answer you give, you have both made it and found confidence.
It seems like you’ve discovered your niche and purpose on this planet. What advice would you give to someone who is still discovering theirs?
Take a step back from the drawing board and breathe. Most of my friends and I are still figuring it out, and even when we think we’ve got it all set and everything is just perfect we realize that our futures have even more in store for us. So, don’t be afraid to think big and out of the box. Nothing amazing ever happens from people saying, nah I’m not gonna try that… Discovering your niche sometimes means creating one, being completely organic in your thoughts, and breaking away from the mainstream way of doing things. Ultimately, I would advise them to bring it back in and try to consider what drives them, what gets them excited, and what is something they would be proud to tell their grandkids about one day. When they figure this out, they usually figure out their niche, or calling or purpose in life.
At the end of the day, how do you want to impact society? What change do you want to create in the world?
Honestly, I just want people to be free which is why it’s such an honor to write in this specific volume of The Authentic Woman Series. When people are set free, they are able to impact the world in unimaginable ways. Freedom goes beyond the expectations that society and other people place on us. It starts with having freedom from within. Most of us are trapped by the chains that we’ve put on ourselves, and I talk about some of mine in Volume II – Bravery Rising. If I can use my experience of breaking free to impact the world, then I will feel like I’ve done my job. I will feel like my existence mattered and that I have created an opportunity for change in the world. The change is for freedom, not political or religious freedom or freedoms of speech and all of those really good things… I’m all for that, but the change that I want to create in our world is the freedom for people to exist in their most authentic forms, free from unrealistic expectations, and free from the fear that keep us from meeting our fullest potential.
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Rapid fire Q’s… GO!
1. Are you a morning or night person? Neither, but I’m pretty solid mid-day lol. If I had to choose though, I’d say night because my dog is super snuggly late at night.
2. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be? So many to choose from… but definitely, Paris! I’ve always dreamed of walking the streets in France, eating French cuisine, and standing in awe of the Eiffel Tower!
3. What’s your favorite summer activity? Anything involving water or a nice beach! I love paddle boarding and all the fun fruits and smoothies that emerge in the summer months!
4. Do you have a nickname? If so, what is it? Oh this is funny... Yes, former co-workers of mine gave me the nickname “Barbie” when I missed my first day at work because I was being a Barbie Character at a little girl’s birthday... I got a name tag and everything!
5. What’s your definition of a perfect night? This might shock you… but growing up, we used to have the best bonfire parties. They weren’t loud or crazy, but we would have good music, and somebody would grill burgers and hot dogs. My perfect night would be something like this with a bunch of friends, twinkly lights strung up somewhere (all aesthetic and what not), just enjoying good conversation and great food with awesome people.
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Lindsay Knox McVety is a southern born and raised Christian woman from North Carolina. She’s a self-proclaimed foodie, adventure enthusiast, and the creator of Eat Pray Wife, a lifestyle blog about all things food, faith and family! She has a huge heart for people, especially those in need of a little extra tlc. She spends her days working with global faith-based organizations to promote sustainable resources for development and growth, both locally and abroad.